Avoiding Regret

You will have a few setbacks along the way to reaching your goals, but don’t let them cause you to lose focus. Sometimes outside circumstances will be an obstacle for you, and then there are some self-made obstacles that you can work to avoid:

  • Fear: Don’t be afraid of making a mistake or tackling a new challenge. The only people who don’t make mistakes are people who don’t try. And people who don’t try, don’t succeed.
  • Lack of commitment: It takes self-discipline and focus to stay on task. If you truly want something, be willing to work for it.
  • Honesty: Be honest with yourself and others when making plans and setting goals. If you set your goal too low, you won’t be working to your full potential and in the end you won’t be satisfied. If your goal is ultimately unachievable, then you are never going to truly work toward it.

You may ask… “How do I avoid disappointment?” Well, it isn’t always easy but it’s important to remember that running into an obstacle is not the same as failure. Don’t lose faith in yourself or in your ability. Every problem has a solution. Here are a few steps you can take to avoid disappointment:

  • Take responsibility for your own choices but don’t be so hard on yourself that you lose your dreams and hopes for the future.
  • Be proud of your successes and reward yourself for each one you make.
  • Stay flexible and adjust your plan as needed to accomplish your goal if you have to.
  • Mentors can be really helpful. If there is someone you know who has achieved what you’re going for or who has knowledge that can assist you in reaching your goal, ask for help.

Another way to avoid disappointments and regret is to make sure you have the right tools. Just like you can’t build a house with only a plan and one nail, you can’t reach your goals without the right tools and supplies. When you are thinking about how to achieve goals, asking the following questions can help you focus on the steps that lead to their achievement:

  • What skills do I need to achieve this?
  • What talents and strengths do I have that will help me reach my goal?
  • What information and knowledge do I need?
  • What help or assistance do I need?
  • What resources do I need?
  • What can block progress and how can I get past these roadblocks?
  • Is there a better way of doing things?
  • Have I set a practical timeline in which to accomplish my goal?

If you find that you don’t have the tools to reach your goals, you may want to take some time to look for those resources or re-evaluate your goal. Talk to your family and friends and see if they can help you.