Student blog: Healthy relationship entitlements
Note: Telia Jones wrote the following blog post. She is a 15-year-old student from Clarksville, Tennessee.
A lot of times we settle for a lot less than we should, we set goals and when we achieve the minimum, we’re content. Sometimes, that is perfectly fine. We, as human beings, adorned with all types of flaws, are not always capable of everything. There are certain things that you just can not settle for, though, an unhealthy relationship being one of those things. We often settle, unaware that we are settling, which makes it even more important to know who you are, what you want, what you need, and what’s crippling you.
Unhealthy relationships are extremely hurtful to your mental and sometimes physical health. Being harmed by an unhealthy relationship is inevitable unless you’re able to decode signs of an unhealthy relationship before you’re in too deep and it becomes harder for you to leave.
To know whether or not your relationship is unhealthy, have knowledge of what you as a person are entitled to. You are entitled to:
- Respect – No one deserves to be disrespected, you are not required to deal with putdowns, rude remarks or physical abuse.
- Equality – You and your partner need to have mutual rules, everyone deserves to be treated equally.
- Space – You don’t need to be around each other every second of every day. Space isn’t just physical, you should be able to be out with your friends and not have to worry about your partner blowing up your phone and getting upset with you for not wanting to talk to them while you’re with other people.
- A sense of self – Just because you guys are a couple does not mean you have to lose yourself in each other, remember that you are your own person. You are allowed to disagree with your partner, like different things, and be by yourself.