Both parties can convey their feelings and opinions. Being able to openly communicate means understanding that different opinions are ok, being able to vocalize issues or problems, and working towards mutually satisfying solutions.
The relationship is built on truth, not playing games. Both parties are open with their feelings.
Both parties take responsibility for their actions and do not create excuses for their behavior. This includes being able to admit when you are wrong.
Making decisions together and being aware of each other’s needs. Each partner has an equal say in the relationship. No one person makes all the decisions.
Treating your partner like she/he has value. You recognize your partner for the person that they are. You acknowledge each other’s differences and are able to listen to each other with understanding.
Being supportive and wanting what is best for your partner. You and your partner know that you can rely on each other. You offer encouragement to each other, and acknowledge that it is okay to have other friends outside of your relationship. You open up and share your vulnerabilities with one another, without fear of negative reactions.
Negotiation and Fairness – Seeking mutually satisfying conclusions to conflict. You and you partner are able to find solutions that are agreeable to you both. You acknowledge each other’s wants and needs, and when conflict arises, you try to consider it from your partner’s point of view. “Winning the argument” is not important.
Any unwanted physical contact on you or your person. Physical abuse does not have to hurt or leave a mark. It can include:
Physically forcing you to have sex or perform a sexual act
Any non-physical behaviors such as threats, insults, ignoring, constant monitoring or “checking in”, excessive texting, intimidation, isolation, humiliation, or stalking. It can include:
Any action that pressures or coerces someone to do something sexually they don’t want to do, and behavior that impacts a person’s ability to control their sexual activity or the circumstances in which sexual activity occurs, including oral sex, rape, or restricting access to birth control and condoms. Sexual abuse can include:
Any attempt to control a person’s money, what they can and cannot buy, or requiring access to someone’s bank account. Financial abuse can include:
the use of technologies such as texting and social networking to bully, harass, stalk, or intimidate a partner. Digital abuse can include:
The Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault Coalition created a “Relationship Bill of Rights” which accurately explains everything you should expect in a relationship:
Breaking up can be hard. However, if you are in a relationship that is harmful to your physical or psychological health, you need to get help! If you are in an unhealthy relationship:
Check out loveisrespect.org for 24 hour online, text and phone support.
You can also call Centerstone at 1-888-291-4357 (HELP)
to schedule an appointment with a therapist.
If you feel like you need immediate help, please call 1-800-681-7444 for 24-hour Crisis Services.
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