Student blog: What a healthy relationship is
Note: This blog post comes from Aminah Perkins, a 15-year-old high school student living in Clarksville, Tennessee.
Relationships are a necessary part of healthy living, but there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. Relationships can vary between individuals and all of these relationships should be happy and great but, unfortunately, they can sometimes bring discomfort and sometimes mental or physical harm.
Relationships should bring happiness into your life rather than stress. Every relationship will have stress at times, but you want to prevent prolonged mental stress on either member of the relationship. This form of discomfort can cause more than just a problem in the current relationship, this can possibly cause a negative pattern in future relationships with others.
A healthy relationship makes you feel good to be around that person. There are more positive conversations, actions, and there is rarely tension between the two. You should be able to express yourself without fear of consequences. There should be an option of privacy. Your morals should be understood, accepted, and always be taken into consideration in any situation. Consent is not a question. You have a right to consent. Your no is your no and your yes is your yes. And no response to any action being asked of you does not give the green light to have anything done to you.
Honesty, trust, and being open to the person you’re in a relationship with is essential to ensure that you two are on the same page. Not everyone is the same so there will be arguments and disagreements but, you two should be able to sit down, talk it out, and make a compromise to know what to do and not to do. Emotional understanding is one of the key factors to healthy relationships. So have an opened mind and always speak yours so there is a sense of understanding and feelings can be mutual rather than in the dark.